International Men’s Day: Why men often suffer in silence
By Mabonga Makhanu, November 19, 2025Every year on November 19th, the world observes International Men’s Day, a day dedicated to celebrating men’s contributions to society while also raising awareness of the challenges they face.
While much attention is given to women’s health and social issues, men’s struggles often go unnoticed. Many men continue to suffer in silence, battling physical, emotional, and mental health challenges without support or acknowledgement.
Societal expectations
One of the main reasons men suffer quietly is cultural and societal expectations around masculinity. From a young age, boys are taught to be strong, independent, and self-reliant.
Vulnerability is often discouraged, and expressing emotions like fear, sadness, or anxiety can be perceived as weakness. As a result, many men internalise their struggles, believing they must face challenges alone.
This “tough it out” mentality can be damaging, leading to long-term stress, depression, and even more severe mental health issues.
Workplace pressures also play a significant role in men’s silent suffering. Men are frequently expected to be providers and protectors, tasked with financial responsibilities and societal expectations.
When they face setbacks, be it job loss, financial difficulties, or relationship challenges, they may feel isolated, embarrassed, or ashamed. Many avoid seeking help, thinking it will be seen as a failure or inadequacy.
health
Health is another area where men are particularly vulnerable. Studies consistently show that men are less likely than women to seek medical attention, attend regular check-ups, or discuss symptoms openly.
Conditions such as heart disease, diabetes, and depression can go unnoticed or untreated because men delay seeking care. Mental health, in particular, remains a silent crisis: men are more likely to die by suicide, yet far less likely to reach out for support when experiencing emotional distress.
Relationships and socioeconomic issues
Relationships and social connections also influence men’s wellbeing. Men often have fewer close friends or support networks compared to women, which can exacerbate feelings of isolation.
Societal norms sometimes discourage men from forming deep emotional connections, leaving them with limited avenues to share struggles or seek advice.
International Men’s Day is not only a time to celebrate men’s contributions to families, communities, and workplaces, but also an opportunity to challenge harmful stereotypes and encourage open conversations about men’s health and wellbeing.
Promoting emotional literacy, creating safe spaces for men to express themselves, and normalising seeking help are critical steps in breaking the cycle of silence.
Ultimately, supporting men to speak out, access care, and prioritise their mental and physical health benefits society as a whole. When men are healthy, supported, and emotionally engaged, families thrive, workplaces function better, and communities become stronger.
International Men’s Day reminds us that men’s health, emotions, and wellbeing deserve attention not just for the men themselves, but for the wellbeing of society at large.