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Marcella Akinyi

How did you meet?

Grace: My husband and I met in campus (University of Nairobi). He was an engineering student and stayed in the same block as my brother.

Every time I visited my brother, I would catch him staring at me from the balcony of his room.

After sometime, he decided to approach me and introduced himself, and that’s how we started talking in 2006.

How was dating like?

We dated during and after campus. But before I graduated, in 2008, I realised I was pregnant.

I panicked because I thought he would leave me, but he was supportive and that made things easier for me.

The support was amazing, considering he was still a student. In 2009, our first daughter was born, and we continued with our relationship even as we lived in separate houses.

We then moved in together when I got a job and had to relocate to Eldoret.

How did he propose?

He went for introduction to my parents with his friends. It was just a simple event to meet and know my parents.

After the lunch and introduction, his friend announced that he had something for me. That’s when I saw a small black box that looked like a ring case.

I wasn’t sure, until he opened it and I saw the beautiful engagement ring. He practically proposed in front of my parents and friends.

How was your experience planning your nuptials?

I planned my wedding myself. My husband participated whenever he could, but only when I needed clarification.

I chose to do it myself because I am detail-oriented and specific on how I desire my things done.

My husband and I were the financiers of the wedding. My brother chipped in only where I needed help.

My mum made all the outfits, from my gowns to the maids’ and groomsmen’s. She’s a legendary tailor.

My sister and brother-in-law assisted me to find the décor person. I found my service providers from referrals and social media. I contacted and vetted them myself until I got what I needed.

How was it having your mother design your gowns and your bridal party’s attires?

She took two weeks off and visited me, with the intention of making the outfits.

I explained what I wanted, and knowing me as a fashion-loving daughter, she ensured that the designs came out perfect. It was easy for us to make adjustments during fittings.

I remember we frequently hid in the kids’ bedroom as I did the fittings, because we didn’t want my husband to see the gowns.

I had four wedding gowns. I didn’t want a netted gown, but an African-themed one, as I love the ankara fabric.

Why four dresses?

It was easy because mum was available to make them. Plus I’m always too much when it comes to clothes (laughs).

What would you tell a bride who has opted to plan her own wedding like you did?

Know what you want. People will advise you and even discourage you, but as long as you are happy with your preferences and choices, go ahead and do it. Of course don’t forget your spouse’s input.

Secondly, budget well and choose your service providers wisely because some don’t present their actual work.

Thirdly, start early, so you don’t rush yourself and are not overwhelmed. Work with a small team when it comes to bridesmaids, as it will be easy to manage.

Stay positive and remember that your wedding doesn’t have to be exaggerated; let it be simple but elegant.

What stands out the most to you about your wedding?

It was one of the happiest days in my life. I was wedding my best friend of 15 years since we met in campus.

Our families, and close friends, were there with us, and I remember smiling the whole time because my heart was exploding with joy.

Any regrets?

I have none.