With Waithera Otieno

Couples who touch each other more are happier.  Intimate non-sexual touch does not always have to lead to sex. It is the kind of touching that tells your partner that they are special, even if there is no sex involved.

When you touch your partner regularly in a non-sexual way, you are expressing fondness, appreciation and admiration. 

Touching is nourishing, as it results in feel-good hormones that reduce stress and increases immunity. Non-sexual touch is also relaxing, comforting and allows you a chance to slow down as a couple. For every sexual encounter, enjoy five episodes of non-sexual touch. 

Examples of non-sexual touch include caressing your partner’s skin, even while fully dressed, while engaging in other every day activities such as eating or watching the news. You may caress their cheek, neck, arms or even feet. You may extend the caress into a back rub. 

Cuddling is also another form of non-sexual touch. You may choose to hold each other while standing, sitting or lying down, as a way of expressing your affection for each other.

If walking, you may stroll slowly, with your arms around each other’s waist or shoulders. While seated, you may sit very close together, so that parts of your body are touching. You may even choose to hold hands while seated close together. 

Your touch may go from sensual to playful, when you tickle each other, and make each other laugh.  You can also play footsie with each other under the table, where you will each play with each other’s foot. 

Kisses and ear nibbles are also playful ways of expressing your affection for each other. If your partner is standing over a counter, you can also give them a warm hug from behind and sway playfully with each other. 

Realise that you are an awesome, loving and lovable person who deserves to also be loved.