Mike dated Moureen for a while and every moment spent with her was just precious. She was the kind of woman he had always dreamt of marrying. Mike and Moureen were constantly hanging out, calling and texting each other. They followed each other on social media.

One day, Mike realised that Moureen was not answering his texts and calls. This went on for days. Just when he had began to panic about the sudden silence, worrying that something might have happened to her, he realised that Moureen had blocked his calls and texts. He couldn’t access her through any means of communication. She had stopped communicating with him, without an explanation.

And no, there was no cheating, lying or argument. There was no sign at all that Moureen would stop talking to Mike, but she did. When he realised that she had ghosted him, his nightmare of emotional pain began.

Emotional cruelty
Have you ever been ghosted? Has your bae or close friend ever stopped all contact with you suddenly? If you are familiar with ghosting, this may make it easier for you to come to terms with it eventually, but it doesn’t make it any less painful. If you are not familiar however, this may be the beginning of a rollercoaster of negative emotions that will leave a bitter taste in your mouth.

The reason ghosting is so painful is that you find yourself wondering what you did wrong, what you could have done better and if you can get a second chance. You blame yourself for the loss of the person who left you. You wonder if and when they will come back. At the beginning, you worry that something bad happened to them.

Ghosting makes you feel like you have been fooled. You also don’t know how to react. Should you be worried, angry or sad? It makes you question the reality of your relationship, it makes you question yourself. You wonder why you didn’t see it coming and why you trusted that person so much. You feel rejected.

Psychologists refer to ghosting as emotional cruelty. It renders you powerless with no opportunity to ask questions or fix anything. Silence means that you cannot express your emotions. Your self-esteem is shattered and you may feel like your body is sick. Because this relationship ended up so abruptly and without reason, it may take you long to let go of this loss and to learn to trust again.

Why would someone you care about ghost you, even when they know how much it hurts? And what should you do if you have been ghosted? You will get a chance to read more about it next week…